Wednesday, August 16, 2017

Friends of Bill W Daily Reflections AUGUST 16

 AUGUST 16
"I HAD DROPPED OUT" 
We might next ask ourselves what we mean when we say
that we have "harmed" other people. What kinds of "harm"
do people do one another, anyway? To define the word
"harm" in a practical way, we might call it the result of
instincts in collision, which cause physical, mental,
emotional, or spiritual damage to people. 
TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 80 

I had been to Eighth Step meetings, always thinking, "I
really haven't harmed many people, mostly myself." But the
time came when I wrote my list out and it was not as short
as I thought it would be. I either liked you, disliked you, or
needed something from you—it was that simple. People
hadn't done what I wanted them to do and intimate relationships
were out of hand because of my partners' unreasonable demands.
Were these "sins of omission"? Because of my drinking, I had "dropped
out"—never sending cards, returning calls, being there for other people,
or taking part in their lives. What a grace it has been to look at these
relationships, to make my inventories in quiet,
alone with the God of my understanding, and to go forth 
daily, with a willingness to be honest and forthright in my
relationships. 

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Tuesday, August 15, 2017

Friends of Bill W Daily Reflections AUGUST 15

 AUGUST 15
DIDN'T WE HURT ANYBODY? 
Some of us, though, tripped over a very different snag. We
clung to the claim that when drinking we never hurt
anybody but ourselves. 
TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 79 

This Step seemed so simple. I identified several people
whom I had harmed, but they were no longer available.
Still, I was uneasy about the Step and avoided
conversations dealing with it. In time I learned to
investigate those Steps and areas of my life which made me
uncomfortable. My search revealed my parents, who had
been deeply hurt by my isolation from them; my employer,
who worried about my absences, my memory lapses, my
temper; and the friends I had shunned, without explanation.
As I faced the reality of the harm I had done, Step Eight
took on new meaning. I am no longer uncomfortable and I
feel clean and light. 

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Monday, August 14, 2017

Friends of Bill W Daily Reflections AUGUST 14

 AUGUST 14
REPAIRING THE DAMAGE 
We attempt to sweep away the debris which has accumulated
out of our effort to live on self-will and run the show ourselves.
If we haven't the will to do this, we ask until it comes. Remember
it was agreed at the beginning we would go to any lengths for
victory over alcohol. 
ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p. 76 

Making a list of people I had harmed was not a particularly
difficult thing to do. They had showed up in my Fourth
Step inventory: people towards whom I had resentments,
real or imagined, and whom I had hurt by acts of
retaliation. For my recovery to be thorough, I believed it
was not important for those who had legitimately harmed
me to make amends to me. What is important in my
relationship with God is that I stand before Him, knowing I
have done what I can to repair the damage I have done. 

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Sunday, August 13, 2017

Friends of Bill W Daily Reflections AUGUST 13

 AUGUST 13
A CLEAN SWEEP 
. . . and third, having thus cleaned away the debris of the
past, we consider how, with our newfound knowledge of
ourselves, we may develop the best possible relations with
every human being we know. 
TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 77 

As I faced the Eighth Step, everything that was required for
successful completion of the previous seven Steps came
together: courage, honesty, sincerity, willingness and
thoroughness. I could not muster the strength required for
this task at the beginning, which is why this Step reads
"Became willing. . . ." 
I needed to develop the courage to begin, the honesty to
see where I was wrong, a sincere desire to set things right,
thoroughness in making a list, and willingness to take the
risks required for true humility. With the help of my Higher
Power in developing these virtues, I completed this Step
and continued to move forward in my quest for spiritual
growth. 

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Saturday, August 12, 2017

Friends of Bill W Daily Reflections AUGUST 12

 AUGUST 12
A LOOK BACKWARD 
First, we take a look backward and try to discover where
we have been at fault; next we make a vigorous attempt to
repair the damage we have done; . . . 
TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 77 

As a traveler on a fresh and exciting A.A. journey of
recovery, I experienced a newfound peace of mind and the
horizon appeared clear and bright, rather than obscure and
dim. Reviewing my life to discover where I had been at
fault seemed to be such an arduous and dangerous task. It
was painful to pause and look backward. I was afraid I
might stumble! Couldn't I put the past out of my mind and
just live in my new golden present? I realized that those in
the past whom I had harmed stood between me and my
desire to continue my movement toward serenity. I had to
ask for courage to face those persons from my life who still
lived in my conscience, to recognize and deal with the guilt
that their presence produced in me. I had to look at the
damage I had done, and become willing to make amends.
Only then could my journey of the spirit resume. 

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Friday, August 11, 2017

Friends of Bill W Daily Reflections AUGUST 11

 AUGUST 11
REMOVING "THE GROUND GLASS" 
The moral inventory is a cool examination of the damages
that occurred to us during life and a sincere effort to look
at them in a true perspective. This has the effect of taking
the ground glass out of us, the emotional substance that
still cuts and inhibits. 
AS BILL SEES IT, p. 140 

My Eighth Step list used to drag me into a whirlpool of
resentment. After four years of sobriety, I was blocked by
denial connected with an ongoing abusive relationship. The
argument between fear and pride eased as the words of the
Step moved from my head to my heart. For the first time in
years I opened my box of paints and poured out an honest
rage, an explosion of reds and blacks and yellows. As I
looked at the drawing, tears of joy and relief flowed down
my cheeks. In my disease, I had given up my art, a selfinflicted
punishment far greater than any imposed from outside. In
my recovery, I learned that the pain of my defects is the
very substance God uses to cleanse my character and
to set me free.
 

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Thursday, August 10, 2017

Friends of Bill W Daily Reflections AUGUST 10

 AUGUST 10
REDOUBLING OUR EFFORTS 
To a degree, he has already done this when taking moral
inventory, but now the time has come when he ought to
redouble his efforts to see how many people he has hurt,
and in what ways. 
TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 77 

As I continue to grow in sobriety, I become more aware of
myself as a person of worth. In the process, I am better able
to see others as persons, and with this comes the realization
that these were people whom I had hurt in my drinking
days. I didn't just lie, I lied about Tom. I didn't just cheat, I
cheated Joe. What were seemingly impersonal acts, were
really personal affronts, because it was people —people of
worth—whom I had harmed. I need to do something about
the people I have hurt so that I may enjoy a peaceful
sobriety. 

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